1 SENTENCE SUMMARY: This book provides a roadmap to understanding and strengthening your relationship, with practical advice rooted in the science of relationships to help couples build a strong and loving marriage.
“It’s not about finding the right person; it’s about being the right person.” – John Gottman
Quick Info

Category: Relationships
Publish Date: 2015-05-05
# Pages: 296
ISBN: 0553447718
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Table of Contents
Overview
7 Principles That Make Marriage Work by John Gottman is a must-read for couples looking to strengthen their relationship.
Written by the renowned relationship researcher and therapist Dr.
John Gottman, it provides practical advice on how to nurture a healthy, long-lasting marriage.
Drawing on decades of research at his renowned Love Lab, Gottman reveals the seven key principles couples must understand and implement in order to create a strong, loving partnership.
Through real-life stories, exercises, and practical tips, the book provides couples with the tools and strategies they need to build an emotionally intelligent and deeply satisfying marriage.
4 Key Lessons from 7 Principles That Make Marriage Work by John Gottman
1. Enhance your Love Maps
This lesson states that couples should be aware of the details of each other’s lives and spend time learning about each other in order to strengthen their relationship.
This means taking the time to learn about each other’s hopes, dreams, fears, and desires.
This can be done by talking about the past, present, and future and asking questions about each other’s lives.
Doing this will help couples to better understand each other and feel more connected.
2. Nurture Fondness and Admiration
This lesson encourages couples to show each other appreciation and admiration.
This can be done through verbal expressions of appreciation, physical affection, and compliments.
Doing this will help couples to feel more valued and appreciated in the relationship.
3. Turn Towards Each Other Instead of Away
This lesson stresses the importance of being available and responsive to each other’s bids for connection.
This means taking the time to listen to each other, showing interest in each other’s ideas and opinions, and being responsive to each other’s needs.
This will help couples to feel more connected and understood.
4. Let Your Partner Influence You
This lesson encourages couples to be open to each other’s influence and to be willing to compromise when needed.
This means being willing to consider each other’s points of view and being open to new ideas.
Doing this will help couples to feel valued and will help them to make decisions together as a team.
Who Should Read It
This book is written for married couples or those who are in long-term relationships.
It is intended to help couples learn how to communicate better, resolve conflicts, and build a strong and lasting bond.
The book is also suitable for people who are considering marriage or those who want to improve their existing relationship.
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About John Gottman
John Gottman is a renowned American psychologist and relationship expert.
He is the co-founder of the Relationship Research Institute and the author of over 200 published scientific articles and 40 books.
His book 7 Principles That Make Marriage Work is based on decades of research and clinical practice on couples and relationships.
His research has focused on understanding the dynamics of relationships, how to predict relationship success, and how to help couples strengthen their relationships.
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